Comments on: Gah! Family!

By: cari

cari — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 21:36:30 +0000

sometimes i feel like that too. my sister and i have gotten better over the years.

By: Ellie

Ellie — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 19:41:06 +0000

I don’t usually experience sister drama. What I do experience is mother drama. Or rather drama with my mother’s side of the family. I am happy to be able to have my own space while I’m in college. I think that is very important as you begin to transition into adulthood.

By: Megan

Megan — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 14:53:56 +0000

I know how you feel. Ever since I moved out, I can only be around my family for short periods. Not that I don’t love them or love being around them, but I need my space. It’s nice to know that I only have to go home to my husband … and I don’t mind him most of the time. ;)

By: cuileann

cuileann — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 07:48:45 +0000

My little sister can be like that sometimes, in the same non-conscious way. I feel ya.

By: sleepyjane

sleepyjane — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 06:27:30 +0000

My younger sister is like that. It’s like she finds pleasure in making comments about me/my hair/my clothes/my choices…basically anything that she knows will piss me off. These days I mostly ignore her. And I’m glad I don’t live at home anymore.

It makes me sad though because sisters are supposed to be a support system, and in addition to being a sibling,a good friend. You know?

So yeah. You’re not alone.

By: Stephany

Stephany — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 01:17:26 +0000

I have the most amazing relationship with my family that I just feel so sad when people talk about going back to visit family and having a bad time. I couldn’t imagine leaving them, even though I’m sure it’s going to happen in the future. So I’m sad that there is family drama in your life, especially with a sister who brings you down.

By: Jordan

Jordan — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 22:57:39 +0000

I don’t really have a relationship like that with anyone in my family, but I wouldn’t want to be around any of them constantly either. People definitely need their own space. Hope you can get through it.

By: Carissa

Carissa — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 21:21:03 +0000

don’t feel bad. I totally get it. I only live 15 minutes from my family and brother, but the distance is GOOD. so good. we are on much better terms I think now that I live away, out of the house. I can see them when I want to. I can call them up when I feel like talking. it is much better this way. my brother and I did not get along as kids, lots of fighting, but we are better now. but we still don’t talk too much. we don’t have a lot in common and my brother is not the best at conversation :) he keeps a lot inside. anyway, I try to be a good sister and check in on him every once in awhile. I know we love each other even if we don’t say it. maybe one day you and your sister will be better (aka, she will be nicer) but for now, it is what it is (it sounds like) and again I say, it is okay to like the distance. because I do. you are definitely not alone.

By: Amber from Girl with the Red Hair

Amber from Girl with the Red Hair — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 19:06:05 +0000

That sucks that your sister makes you feel like that.

I definitely do not like being THAT far from my family. I would like to be a 2-3 hour drive from them, then I could pop in for lunch or go visit them for the day and then get back to my own little world after that! Haha.

Glad to hear you’re happy to be heading back home rather than sad about it, though!

By: MinD

MinD — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 18:56:28 +0000

I think that’s how many of us feel who even just live alone.

By: Erin

Erin — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 18:46:36 +0000

I have no sisters, but I understand the family drama. It was very stressful for me to live at my parent’s house for six months after college. I’m grateful everyday that I have my own place.

By: phampants

phampants — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 18:43:36 +0000

Moving out since college was the best decision of my life. I get to control “family” time. I love being on my own

By: Shannon

Shannon — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 18:04:47 +0000

I know what you mean, I live an ocean away from my family and I love them to death but I felt like I needed the distance in order to really establish myself and live my own life but thanks to technology they’re still very much involved in my life, my mom reads my blog, my dad follows me on twitter, and my brother and I texting fiends.

By: Jaime | Fast Times

Jaime | Fast Times — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 17:40:55 +0000

That’s one of the greatest treasures of growing up, finding your own space that’s YOURS. Family will always be family, and they’ll always be there for you, but you don’t have to be together 100% of the time to appreciate it. Quite the opposite, sometimes you need to step away and take a breather before you can really appreciate something like family.

By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 17:25:30 +0000

Sister drama is the worst. I’ve had my fair share and I’m still learning how to cope with it. Don’t feel guilty for venting, everyone needs to get things off their chests.