Comments on: Always So Serious

By: Layla

Layla — Wed, 03 Aug 2011 07:54:25 +0000

loved the post, I’m much like this….. everybody has a sense of humor, mine is a difficult one, I don’t find everything funny. When I was younger I though maybe there was something wrong with me, now I definitely don’t, there’s nothing wrong with us. It’s our personality to be more serious and we should be respected like everybody else.
Peace!

By: Leah

Leah — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 15:34:21 +0000

You’re deffinately not alone on this one. I’ve had people at work tell me that I’m too serious (these were people I’m in charge of). We used to get together for lunch or for a beer now and then. When around most people I’m pretty quiet unless I’m (A) interested in what they’re talking about, and/or (B) feel I have something to contribute to the conversation. If neither A nor B exist, then I listen. Especially since the bulk of these conversations are drenched with gossip, I don’t feel right contributing to it. I don’t beleive in talking just for the sake of talking–too many people make fools of themselves this way-it appears they’re trying too hard. By listening, I’ve learned things that they didn’t realize they were giving away. I enjoy joking around as much as the next person, but if I don’t find it funny-I don’t laugh. I may smirk but I’m not going to feign amusement to save face with the joker. I guess my “humor” is more like sarcasm and sometimes people don’t get it. My small circle of long time friends understand my humor and we joke easily with eachother–they can take it as well as dish it out–it works. I used to feel there was something wrong with me because I wasn’t considered someone fun to have around and that hurt. Now I realize that I really just didn’t have anything in common with those who left me out of the invites to go for a beer or come over for a BBQ.

By: Stephanie Ford

Stephanie Ford — Mon, 18 Jul 2011 02:23:37 +0000

Thanks! I’ve just been told for the umpteenth time by my bf that I take things so seriously. I really feel like when I get told that that people would prefer I act like a dump person with no brain in their head. I really don’t want to act like a nitwit. And then I feel pressure to not appear to “thoughtful” too often. To me, thinking is being analytical. But to him being analytical is taking thinking to the next step of obsessing over something. I know that I have a sense of humor and that I can be funny but that is just part of me. There is a whole different world inside my head that I don’t think many people consider.

By: Anand

Anand — Sat, 02 Apr 2011 23:40:00 +0000

Yes I have been told by strangers to smile more. The minute they say that it just makes me feel bad, I was just fine before until they said that. I am also serious, and I have been like that most my life. I rarely have fun or laugh, because I think or worry about things too much. Occasionally I would get a real good laugh because of something really funny that a work colleage says to another. On top of that I am naturally a quiet person so I cannot make a joke to save my life. But I have a sense of humor, I watch comedies a lot. On the outside my face looks so so serious, those times I am usually not even thinking anything!

By: Tom Camfield

Tom Camfield — Wed, 19 Jan 2011 08:49:56 +0000

It gets better when you have like-minded friends. If you’re really serious, you’ve just taken on adult responsibilities earlier than everyone else, and there are a clutch of people out there who are the same. As long as you can still run around in a circle screaming and whooping, then you’ll be fine.

By: Norma Sanchez

Norma Sanchez — Sun, 21 Nov 2010 22:39:04 +0000

I just wanted to tell you that I love your blog! I realize you posted this over a year ago but I just wanted to say that this is exactly how I feel but I never really felt insecure just misunderstood.

By: Caladhiel

Caladhiel — Tue, 19 Oct 2010 15:17:35 +0000

I just wanted to thank you for writing this. I have gone through the same thought processes about myself and I think I am just about reaching that stage where I’m accepting that I’m just a serious person and that there is nothing wrong with it. I can’t count the number of times I have been told “cheer up, it’ll probably never happen” – made me act more jovially around people and funnily enough I felt miserable doing it! If I am putting on a happy face in my day to day life it is much more likely that I am upset about something. Even my closest friends make fun of me for being serious at times, but at least I know they’re just having a laugh, and I don’t mind that. I’m serious, but I’m not up my own arse!

By: Smiles on the inside...but not all the time

Smiles on the inside...but not all the time — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 17:49:37 +0000

I get told this on a regular for as long as I can remember. One day my sister said the same….the gas station attendant said “Smile, it aint that bad!” So together as we are having this conversation (driving to Sears) we decided to put this continous smile on our faces…we were not aloud to stop. Talk about HARD. It makes you laugh uncontrolably because why the F are we smiling? It literally makes you feel like an insane idiot. By the the time we got to Sears both our faces hurt. I had to reverese.and back up to the loading dock…that was the funniest, because I turned fully around to greet the person at the back entrance already with a smile without even seeing him…knowing him. I’m sorry but you know that would appear very weird.

The worste for me is when I’m working on my computer and researching something that I should have turned into my boss 5 minutes ago…and some jack ass..quite a few actually….say, ” Your so serious, don’t look so intence!” I f’ing hate that!!! Who the hell does there work with a constant light hearted smile? Mean while the people asking…”what’s wrong” aren’t walking around beaming ear to ear. Shit it makes me want to say ” and I’m sorry God made your face look like that too :( :( ;) Ha I crack myself up.

By: alexa

alexa — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 12:22:56 +0000

Wow! your article is thought-proviking. I was going through a bad time as someone just told me that i’m too serious whilst i do not think so, then i start to wonder, can be stop stereotyping or make judgements about someone. I’m actually someone who knows how to have fun, but just because I’m serious about my work, everybody thinks that i’m a loner, as in being serious means that you cannot communicate well with others, that is so not true!! And it hurts that people just make judgements like that without bothering to know you..

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By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 23:21:31 +0000

People just need to take the time to get the know what’s inside. One of my insecurities is that people always think I’m mad just because of the shape of my eyebrows. I know it’s stupid but I literally go around with a plastered smile on my face so people won’t think I’m mad at them.

By: Noel

Noel — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 23:37:32 +0000

There’s nothing wrong with being pensive. There’s a time and a place for being silly–but there’s also balance. Being able to smile is a wonderful thing, just as long as you remember that you are smiling for a reason.

By: cari

cari — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 22:57:52 +0000

My vote is the one taking myself seriously.

By: ashley

ashley — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 22:52:29 +0000

you know who is serious and badass all at the same time? Daria. hehe.

But is all seriousness (I had to), don’t ever let anyone tell you that you’re not good enough the way you are. I’ve always had people tell me “We’ve gotta break you outta your shell,” my whole life. No, no, I don’t have to hatch into a better person…you just have to get to know me better for me to show you the fabulousness that is me. My real friends have taken the time, and love me for exactly who I am. Yours too, I’m sure.

By: MinD

MinD — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 22:19:12 +0000

Damn. Post that without the next line:

Happy people give them less to worry about.

By: MinD

MinD — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 22:18:49 +0000

I’ve never thought you were “too serious,” especially because you smile in pretty much every photo of yourself you post in your “picture a day.”

Personally, I tend to be one of those happy-go-lucky people always smiling and visibly happy. So when I’m not all giddy and bubbly, people automatically assume something is wrong even though it’s highly unlikely that something is. I guess people just prefer the smiling ones…?

By: Paula

Paula — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 20:49:50 +0000

I don’t think you come across as too serious or boring or miserable via your blog. You come across as intelligent and interesting and bring up a lot of interesting points – and I think you are funny! Not emo at all!!! :)

By: Laycie

Laycie — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 18:07:26 +0000

I get asked “what’s wrong”, “are you mad” all the time because my relaxed, focused face isn’t one with a smile. I get being misunderstood. I have never thought you were too serious, just that you are a thinker… I like thinkers. I have also never got the impression you were miserable, much the opposite actually. You have a lot going on and you come across to me as proud and focused and I actually think you are quite the funny one! I think we all get hung up with the thought of what others see us as or think of us, I think you’re awesome and I think lots of other people do too!

By: nicoleantoinette

nicoleantoinette — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 15:38:03 +0000

I definitely think it’s possible to have a balance between the two. To take things seriously but also be able to be light when necessary. Hopefully people see me this way? Mah, no idea.

By: Ellie

Ellie — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 14:47:53 +0000

I have thoughts like this constantly. One of the lines that used to bug me the most came from a friend.

He said that I don’t have friends. The entire statement is based off the fact that he never sees me bring someone over to our house. Meanwhile he’s constantly the social leader. I tend to keep to myself. I surround myself with a few select people. I’ve never been in the spotlight and I prefer to spend time with my boyfriend or roommates. Recently I realized that I don’t care what he thinks. I’m happy the way I am.

That’s the key. Be happy with what you are and let others do the worrying!