Comments on: About How I’m a Mess

By: Annora

Annora — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 15:33:17 +0000

Interesting to know.

By: Daisy

Daisy — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 12:05:46 +0000

I am a procrastinator too … and an over-achiever and perfectionist. Talk about a great way to set myself up for failure! Even though I do well I always know in the back of my mind that I COULD have done better if I hadn’t have procrastinated …

I hope that doesn’t happen to you too! It’s kind of … well … sucky. :)

By: Brett

Brett — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 06:41:22 +0000

Self image is one very strange thing, take me, i knew i was smart, but had difficulty spelling, so compared myself to people who had the same level of writing skill. 25 years latter i discover i have dyslexia and an iq over 120, my self image was so wrong and had affected my whole life. You think you are one thing and use that to judge your world.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 03:45:02 +0000

Thanks everyone!

Elizabeth: In my opinion, grad school is both harder and easier than everyone says. The things you thought were hard as an undergrad seem easy, but you have all this new pressure. I feel like I’m challenged constantly, which has taken an emotional toll, but it’s also led me to produce work at a quality I had no idea I was capable of. If it’s what you really want to do, then you have to do it!

Sophia: Yeah, I really hope being accountable here will help me. I can’t seem to do it all on my own.

Paula: Oh my gosh, the internet makes procrastinating so easy. So often I procrastinate by blogging.

Elizabeth2: Reading someone else say the same thing I feel makes me think that we absolutely cannot let fear stop us from doing what we want.

kahea: I always write the I’m an island stuff in an I’m-making-fun-of-myself tone, but I’m really having such a hard time getting past it. Maybe I should stop stalling, and just ask for help already. Thanks for the push.

liz: Focusing on my failures so much, it seems like I often take the joy right out of everything I accomplish. I don’t even realize what I’ve done until much later when I look back. It’s such a shame.

By: liz

liz — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 01:11:06 +0000

That’s almost exactly how I feel. I avoid things that I am scared of failing. I set really high standards for myself and then put a lot of pressure on myself to reach them. I only focus on my failures rather than successes.

By: kahea

kahea — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 22:18:19 +0000

it’s a strange thing, the need for people to think we’re perfect and put-together and successful in our ambition, existing simultaneously with the need for them to know that we’re NOT perfect. that we can screw up, and procrastinate, and let the pressure get us down now and then.

the main thing, and the hardest i think, is to finally realize that we’re not supposed to be doing this life/success thing alone. we’re not islands, and we’re not alone. that’s why we have friends and families and blogs! we’re supposed to share what’s hard and stressful, just like we’re supposed to share what’s good and fun. it makes us people.

By: Elizabeth (2)

Elizabeth (2) — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 19:58:31 +0000

I know exactly how you feel. I’m not going to law school because I’m pretty confident that I won’t get in and even if I did, I wouldn’t be able to keep up. I used to be a painter too, but I stopped because I didn’t think I could paint anything worthwhile anymore. God, I sound pathetic!

I too, have been told that I am neurotically organized. But I feel like a hot mess all the time. I feel ya!

By: Paula

Paula — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 17:39:20 +0000

I’m a complete and utter procrastinator – I’ve not even started the creative writing course i paid for in may, and I can’t even do the day to day stuff like tidying my room and packing for my holiday . . . instead I’m online!

By: Sophia

Sophia — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 15:23:48 +0000

At least you are able to be objective with yourself! You’ve said it before, you’re not a BS-er. And I think that writing about it or making goals on a blog gives you some accountability, even though we wouldn’t even know if you were making progress or not — I know that I’ve been better at realizing my (small) goals when I write them on my blog.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 14:22:00 +0000

Wow–that sounds so much like how I was feeling in school. I was pulling together an honors thesis, leading different campus groups, and doing well in class, but deep down, I was freaking out. This eventually led me to stall on everything, and at several points, I just wanted to drop all of it!

It obviously got better, but now I’m thinking about grad school. Am I crazy?