Comments on: Sometimes I Have No Manners

By: Daisy

Daisy — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 22:45:05 +0000

Ran across your site – really enjoyed it! I forget people’s names the second I hear them too. And I feel awkward every time I meet them the second time and they remember MY name but I have no idea or clue about theirs.

To make myself feel better I just tell myself it’s EASY to remember MY name – plus I’m American and there aren’t a whole lot of us in AUS.

I should probably feel guiltier about this.

Anywho … Glad to see I’m not the only one with short-term name memory loss – though it’s a shame I’m apparently the only one who doesn’t feel guilty about it. ah well …

By: Josephine

Josephine — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 19:35:28 +0000

I’m working on the compliments as well. I’ve got a bit of shyness in me, too, and complimenting an absolute stranger or an acquaintance is really stepping out of my boundaries. I’ve given compliments to friends, but I want to make that extra effort to compliment anybody at any given time.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 18:50:04 +0000

I try to say nice things when I think them because I know how good it makes me feel when I get a compliment. I still probably don’t it enough, but I agree with you that I don’t want to be fake. If you mean it, say it I guess is my motto.

By: Sophia

Sophia — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 15:39:51 +0000

you might find that you feel good when you compliment people and ask about them, even if it feels awkward at first! Moving from the West coast to the South has made me pick up certain niceties since EVERYone here is so nice…now I automatically ask how other people are doing when they ask how I am (grocery store checkers, baristas, friends, etc.) — though autopilot and sincerity are not the same…

By: Paula

Paula — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 17:54:09 +0000

I think the fact you realise you are doing it cancels out any rudeness. It’s just made me realise that I do exactly the same thing! Ooops.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 16:35:57 +0000

It’s good that you are making an effort! I agree with Sara’s comment, I think sometimes, I’m too overly thank you, your welcome, you look nice, bla bla bla. My boyfriend is the same way as you, and he also has made a conscience effort to try to remember the thank you’s, etc! But I also agree with Sara by saying I’m sure people think you are well mannered..we usually look at ourselves a little harder than others.

By: Sara

Sara — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 16:08:26 +0000

I think I have the opposite problem. I actually say “thank you” too much, especially when I should say “your welcome”. I basically thank people for letting me do them favors. I remember peoples names so well that I think I come off stalker-like.

I almost wish I was little less well mannered, but kudos to you for trying to make a change for the better! Although, I’m sure people think you’re well mannered than you think.